What do I do when my words seem to fail me?
Humans have the amazing capacity to intuitively process, comprehend, and respond to nonverbal cues in their environment. In fact, when engaging in a conversation with another person, your nonverbal language often speaks much louder than your words.
Beyond our vocabulary, which at time feels inadequate or restricting when we are attempting to express deep emotion, we can share our feelings with others through our posture, facial expressions, tone, and movements. Individuals with Alzheimer’s disease are no exception. While they may suffer from an impaired ability to communicate verbally, they often seem to retain their ability to respond to the nonverbal cues around them. A person with Alzheimer’s can still understand their environment- they know if they are being excluded, looked down upon, or otherwise mistreated.
However, as you might imagine, nonverbal communication is a two way street. We must also learn to interpret the cues of those around us. In patients with Alzheimer’s, attention to body language can often reveal the presence of pain or discomfort. Does your loved one seem unable to get comfortable? Do they suddenly get up and pace around the room? Do you ever notice a grimace on their face? If yes, then invite them to talk to you about these things.
Strong nonverbal communication can also be helpful in managing aggression, agitation, or confusion. At times, a simple touch can do much more than a thousand words could ever hope to do. A hug or a gentle touch on the shoulder says “I’m here for you” in the most powerful way imaginable. Be aware of the power of this sort of communication. Even if you feel as though you are not the “touchy feely” type, you will be surprised to see how those around you will open up once you step outside of your comfort zone.
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